[shesaboutspirit]

The main reason I think that knowing your age is helpful is because it puts your life in context for the rest of us who want to offer encouragement and support. The advice and feedback will be different for a sixteen year old than an eighty year old. For example, a sixteen year old has to deal with raging hormones that will make your moods feel like a roller coaster...without you having done anything wrong at all. The good news is that those are somewhat temporary...if you're a male anyway. As a woman, I've needed and continue to need to learn coping strategies for this aspect of being human.

The most important thing I can tell you...and you'll find this all over Steve's site... What you focus on is what you will grow.

You can stare at your pain forever and it will keep staring back at you. You can also try looking at something that gives you true joy...like offering unconditional love to the best of your ability to somebody...anybody...and it will grow within you. Do something for someone. Just try it, and you'll see...it begins as a little flicker within. It feels like love, true love. You can grow that my friend.

I've been considered good looking in my life...it's been good and it's been agony. I didn't start developing inner depth until my forties. That means I've been one superficially focused, unhappy woman for most of my life. It didn't start getting good until I began looking at what makes me truly lovely. It's all about heart.

Pam