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Still Growing · 12-05-2006, 01:51 PM

Geek Chic,
You question was really about your boyfriend's reaction wasn't it?

His being "Very upset" was probably not about $10 but about other things. Maybe he is afraid you will have to spend more time working on this rather than being with him. Maybe he is upset because you did not consult him and he is seeing a different, indpendent side of you come out. Maybe he views you as an extension of himself and since he did not contribute to the idea it can't possibly be good..

I'm not trying to berate your boyfriend; you are both very young. The point is not about the $10 or about your boyfriend. The real test is how you deal with this business and how you deal with his reaction.

I would recommend to set a boundary with him immediately by telling him "Maybe you are right but I want to give this a try. Can you help me give it a shot?" You may be surprised by his reaction.

The fact that you are an active participant Steve's site says a lot about you and the fact that you are trying to start a business while still in school is very impressive as well. Remember that its not really about the money or really about this business working or not. Even if you loose money it will be the best investment you ever made and thats in yourself...

Good luck,

Still Growing.

12-05-2006, 01:51 PM	#19 (permalink)
Still Growing Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 944	Its not really about $10 Geek Chic, You question was really about your boyfriend's reaction wasn't it? His being "Very upset" was probably not about $10 but about other things. Maybe he is afraid you will have to spend more time working on this rather than being with him. Maybe he is upset because you did not consult him and he is seeing a different, indpendent side of you come out. Maybe he views you as an extension of himself and since he did not contribute to the idea it can't possibly be good.. I'm not trying to berate your boyfriend; you are both very young. The point is not about the $10 or about your boyfriend. The real test is how you deal with this business and how you deal with his reaction. I would recommend to set a boundary with him immediately by telling him "Maybe you are right but I want to give this a try. Can you help me give it a shot?" You may be surprised by his reaction. The fact that you are an active participant Steve's site says a lot about you and the fact that you are trying to start a business while still in school is very impressive as well. Remember that its not really about the money or really about this business working or not. Even if you loose money it will be the best investment you ever made and thats in yourself... Good luck, Still Growing.