(I posted this on another forum but this might help get clarity on why you are losing your motivation, cheers!)
I think most guys just don't know any better or where to get the information to solve their REAL problems.
In the beginning their life is miserable because they aren't honest, have tons of insecurities, fears, doubts all of it. They learn lines and community stuff and "fake" like they dont have those same problems anymore-they do, but they are just hidden.
We begin to feel better about ourselves and we actually get women. After a while a getting women it begins to feel less satisfying. Once you get fed you are no longer hungry.
All the lines and routines are just lies and a script because that isn't really us, we are actors that never hear the director say "cut." We begin to lose our souls in the process.
In addition, the women we are attracting aren't the best women in the world. Community stuff teaches you to put a confident mask but the insecurities are still there. So we attract women who put on a confident mask with an insecurity base. These women are state changing validation junkies and so are pick up artists.
PUA begin to resent and hate women because of the type of women you meet. Not all women in the club are state changing validation junkies but most are. Sleeping with different women every night is good for a while but it eventually leads to a point where it just doesn't do it for you anymore-you strive to wanting more.
God forbid that you develop real feelings for the club girls because those women will make your life a dragon butter filled living hell. After that **** relationship the PUA will resolve to never get on-itis or whatever and sarg like never before to never feel the hurt again. The problem is not onitis, it was that PU lines DONT work for relationships and PU stuff doesnt teach you what you need to know to have a successful, continuous attraction based relationship.
In addition you feel isolated from everyone. You can't really talk with guys about anything other than pickup because its on their minds like a virus. You cant open up to them if you have problems because they will call you a wuss or tell you need to sarg more, isn't always their solution? Sex is great but your solutions will never be found drowning in a sea of *****.
You cant open up to women because these state changing junkies will hate your wussiness. Actually, they just hate anything that reminds them of their own problems that they try to avoid by hitting up the club every weekend or dating guys who will never care about them.
When you begin to lose drive for picking up women most guys dont know what to do so most continue down that road hoping the light at the end of the tunnel will come but that particular path doenst have one. Hopefully it will become a stepping stone to another path.
The biggest fear is going back to the miserable self they were before they learned anything. They know the seduction path is unsatisfying after you have been fed but don't want to drop it because of this fear. Most continue down the path and become more miserable (mystery, Style and a lot of other top PUAs) Some give it up completely and become religious (rick H) trying to find themselves.
It's also an ego thing. Investing that much time into something that doesn't work out is damaging to the ego. Most are stubborn and push on with the path because of how much time they have invested in that path. They don't want to think it was a complete waste of years of their life. It wasn't a waste. Something they needed to do at the time to learn and grow and evolve to the next stage: heart.
and some say **** it and wont let this set them back and search for things that will really make them happy ( Sean, Stephane and that dude from RSD)
The problem is most guys who get into the community dont know there are places like this one and ideagasms and my website. They don't know there is something beyond lines and tricks to get women and be HAPPY with or without them.
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