Dan, it seems to me that you get very outraged towards people, and towards groups of people, and that in effect you do sort of "villainize" them. That's not to say I condone the actions and beliefs of the people you are outraged by, or that you should condone them or love them or anything, really. I hear you saying you want to find a way to love these people who outrage you, or in some other way to be effective.
What I'm asking you to try on is: is it exactly the tendency you are outraged about -- thinking that the other person is wrong, evil, bad, and *should* be other than what they are -- that keeps you from either generating love or being effective in making a difference in the matter? That's the way it often goes -- you can't see it if you don't have it.
It is really clear to me that making a positive difference in the world is one of your highest priorities -- if not your highest. I acknowledge you for your commitment. And here you are on this personal development board. Do you think it's worth trying on, the possibility that you are related to the people who make you so upset, in a very profound way?
I find myself talking on eggshells with you a little bit, because I am concerned about upsetting you with what I say. (oops! I guess I have something to look at, too!)
Lots of love,
Angela
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