[Sanity Panda]

I'm totally gutted by this thread. I do understand these situations occur but it's almost as if people here are against the idea of lasting friendship. That friendship is only a temporary thing of moving around to people that resonate with you and dropping those who don't.

It reminds me of an episode of family guy, where Joe ditches all his closest friends when he starts walking again. That's not what friendship should be about... It's a two-way thing.

When you start talking about ditching your friends for new friends who resonate with you, the focus is only on you. I'm sorry to say but in the eyes of other, that will always come across as more selfish. The negative description of self-interest is being egocentric and selfish. Nothing wrong with that.

Having said that. I'll agree that it's not good to stay in a relationship where the other person is negative and toxic, but do understand that people can be negative at times, positive at times. It'd be silly for anyone to break up a perfectly good friendship just because we "moved further" ahead. Friendship needn't be about sharing similar values.

But since you already see the friendship more as an obligation, that means you no longer want to invest in the emotional bond. It's pretty much over.