If you stand back and look at your life, perhaps you can see that whatever you have tried has not helped to change the situation with your parents. Ultimately the only people we can change is ourselves and our reactions to situations.
As an adult now I wonder whether you would feel able to say to either parents that you are not prepared to listen to your other parent being spoken about in such a way. If they continue then leave the room or go home. By you setting boundaries and consistently sticking with them, you will force your parents to behave differently.
If you are unable to suggest group support could you go for individual help like counselling? Nobody needs to know that you are receiving help, particularly as there is online counselling available today thanks to technology.
Alison
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