[blazer1]

My mother tells me that my father is having open fantasies about another married woman. Now at first, this started as a joke, where my dad would tease my mother by pretending to like this other girl. And now my mother says it has gotten to a point where my dad will wake my mother up at night, and tell vivid stories about him and this girl travelling to different places, doing specific things etc.

I think what started off as a joke, has snowballed into a habitual thought, in other words obsession.

I have not confronted my father about anything before, so I really dont know how to handle this. I can see my mother getting worried too.

My mother is always being compared to this other woman ... which pisses me off. My parents have been through some very violent and rough patches during my childhood (which has ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥ me too) ... and I think my dad has always resented having kids, a wife (arranged), and responsibility.

BUT, at the same time he has been a better father than most people. He has provided more than necessities, and he has shown much love towards his family. So it's kind of wrong for me to say he had resentment I suppose, but the feeling is there

He is a drinker, he drinks every night. (BTW I am 25) ... and i know from being a drug addict myself once, that doing stimulants everyday means you are trying to ease the burden of life, or escape from something.

So can someone please help me out with this one ... i know if this thought pattern continues in his mind, then it will have some harmful effects on him and the rest of my family.

I dont live with them anymore either, so I need fast and effective action.