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Originally Posted by Restrikted  Unfortunately not, but I've always been fascinated with the idea of sitting down for lunch or dinner with someone I know nothing about and taking a look into their lives. But then again I would feel like a complete tool asking someone I've never met to lunch or dinner. They would think I was a creeper. |
Your pre-conceived perception of the event is killing it before it even happens.
Why do you feel like a tool asking someone you've never met before for lunch or dinner?
Do you have to know everyone you might hook up with?
Men are driven by visual indicators, that's their first & possibly most important way of determining a suitable mate. Women are affected by visual indicators but not to the same degree, for women it's more based on how you act, how you speak, how you take the lead, your confidence levels, etc. Ever see a drop dead gorgeous woman with a man that doesn't seem to be her match physically (not ugly but not brad pitt either)? How does it happen? Attraction for women is based on an entirely different set of rules.
Back to your problem.
Check out the online ads, get in the game. Start emailing them, contact them, offer them some info about yourself (as much as they have offered about themselves) and give them your email address and ask them to contact you back if they're interested in chatting some more. You may find that you will get a few responses back and you will then start some communication which will lead to a first meeting: coffee, drinks & bite to eat, etc. From there if there is anything to pursue, it will happen, if it doesn't happen, nothing really lost but possibly alot gained: your confidence in this area in meeting new people and talking to people you've never met.
But you have to try it first if you're going to get anywhere with this.