That's all possible. But I don't understand why women's judgement is so poor, that they will follow whatever their men are doing. And why do they feel guilty when other men pay attention to them?
I mean just those nice compliments or slight flirting can improve self-esteem significantly if a woman doesn't get what she needs in her own house. And it won't harm anybody either.
I can tell if one spouse is kind of lethargic and slow it's hard for another spouse not to become the same way. But that's when we can excercise our will power and still move, meet with friends, do something we love, keep going. And at last a lazy spouse will become more active too. Because in the family people influence each other. And a person with the stronger will usually wins.