Hi Patty.
It comes across very strongly that you want your son to succeed. You can communicate that to him, and show that to him, and continually find ways to improve your technique, but it is still up to him. I know many teenagers (I teach) who fit the characteristics of your son. In my experience, it is quite a shock once they realize that it is completely up to them to make it happen. I say let the shock come. After the shock the response is most important. Your son may re-evaluate what he has done and figure out what he needs to do. If that's true, great. And if he does not figure it out by himself, he may be in a more receptive position to aid. I say let the shock come. Shock is an effective teacher.
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