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Lyric · 05-20-2008, 04:03 PM

Hi there!
I just joined yesterday (after months and months of lurking) and this is my very first post too. I couldn't help but respond to this. I have absolutely no good advice but I can certainly commiserate. I'm in just about the exact same situation as you are but with my 19 YO son.

He graduated (a year late) from high school this past Sunday and will be starting college in the fall. He's got alot of similar issues as your son as well as having to deal with dyslexia.

I'm done worrying and trying to help him and nagging at him. He just blows me off anyways. He is just going to have to sink or swim once he gets to college. Its hard to just shut my mouth and let him go, but I have to. I think it will do both of us more harm than good if I don't.

I know when I was his age, my parents tried to tell me things and I did the same thing he does to me, blew them off and did my own thing. They let me make my own mistakes and suffer the consequences. I look back on my own life and things have pretty much always worked out,one way or another. I don't have much choice other than to trust that life, God, the universe, whatever you want to call it, will work things out for my son as well.

So easy to say, so hard to do though, isn't it? I'm glad you posted, we can commiserate together!

05-20-2008, 04:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
Lyric Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 7	Hi there! I just joined yesterday (after months and months of lurking) and this is my very first post too. I couldn't help but respond to this. I have absolutely no good advice but I can certainly commiserate. I'm in just about the exact same situation as you are but with my 19 YO son. He graduated (a year late) from high school this past Sunday and will be starting college in the fall. He's got alot of similar issues as your son as well as having to deal with dyslexia. I'm done worrying and trying to help him and nagging at him. He just blows me off anyways. He is just going to have to sink or swim once he gets to college. Its hard to just shut my mouth and let him go, but I have to. I think it will do both of us more harm than good if I don't. I know when I was his age, my parents tried to tell me things and I did the same thing he does to me, blew them off and did my own thing. They let me make my own mistakes and suffer the consequences. I look back on my own life and things have pretty much always worked out,one way or another. I don't have much choice other than to trust that life, God, the universe, whatever you want to call it, will work things out for my son as well. So easy to say, so hard to do though, isn't it? I'm glad you posted, we can commiserate together!