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Patty · 05-20-2008, 08:29 AM

Greetings All! This is my first post, although I've been "lurking in the
shadows" reading some pieces for quite some time. My seventeen year old son is going off to college in the fall and I feel certain that he is not ready. I want to feel excited for him and celebrate his impending high school graduation, but in addition to his pot smoking, procrastinating, disorganized tendencies, I think he is truly deluded. He believes that in college, he won't have seemingly frivolous worksheet assignments and parents and teachers communicating every missed assignment to each other, so therefore he will somehow become a good student. He doesn't see a cause and effect with work habits and good grades. Anyone know a really really disorganized teenager who is in complete denial of his constant confusion of due dates and missing resources and reliance on friends and teachers' web postings to know what is due? He is not exactly ADD and won't consider being medicated to see if it helps anyway. How do I deal with feelings of doom, helplessness and worry? By the way, my husband is less worried and so my feelings are my own. He agrees with the concerns but is able to live and let live. Any suggestions for me and/or similar experiences out there?

05-20-2008, 08:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
Patty Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Northeastern U.S. suburb. Posts: 30	Worried About My Teenage Son Greetings All! This is my first post, although I've been "lurking in the shadows" reading some pieces for quite some time. My seventeen year old son is going off to college in the fall and I feel certain that he is not ready. I want to feel excited for him and celebrate his impending high school graduation, but in addition to his pot smoking, procrastinating, disorganized tendencies, I think he is truly deluded. He believes that in college, he won't have seemingly frivolous worksheet assignments and parents and teachers communicating every missed assignment to each other, so therefore he will somehow become a good student. He doesn't see a cause and effect with work habits and good grades. Anyone know a really really disorganized teenager who is in complete denial of his constant confusion of due dates and missing resources and reliance on friends and teachers' web postings to know what is due? He is not exactly ADD and won't consider being medicated to see if it helps anyway. How do I deal with feelings of doom, helplessness and worry? By the way, my husband is less worried and so my feelings are my own. He agrees with the concerns but is able to live and let live. Any suggestions for me and/or similar experiences out there? Last edited by Patty; 05-20-2008 at 08:31 AM.