Very interesting. Thanks for sharing! I agree, though.. where is the article about why married men gain weight?? Or, is it just accepted to be "okay" if a man is overweight?
I was always my skinniest when I was single. Even when my now husband and I broke up for a few monts I lost a ton of weight. And, it wasn't because I was tying to "snag" another man, either. I was just busy doing things I enjoyed. Then we got married and I felt "tied down" again. (and I think, secretly, that depressed me big time)
Now I have been steadily losing again. Not because I am single. I am still very much married. Not because I am dieting. I don't believe in diets. But, because I am taking responsibility for my life. My moods, My emotions and my actions. I am owning them all.
When my dh says he wants pizza, fine... we order a pizza. I don't eat it though.
If he wants to stay home and do video games, that is fine. But I Don't have to. I go out and kayak. Or bike.
Yeah, we end up doing things separately now, but I figure he will either join me or not, but I am not going to feel guilty for getting out and doing things I love to do.
I think for some women, maybe their husband brings them DOWN and they allow it??
Interestingly enough, we are getting closer and closer now. He sees me getting out and enjoying life and he is asking to join now. So, clearly it's a good thing all around.
I think women lose themselves too easily for their families. Get out and do what you love with no guilt. This will put food on the back burner for good. I am not even tempted to eat out of emotion anymore, and I used to "own that story" like crazy. (Claiming that I am an emotional eater) I just decided one day that I am NOT an emotional eater. Turning inward (getting in touch with spirituality) and getting out of the house thins a person right up!
