I certainly agree about the outward forms of life. I agree with you that few women are into me, for instance
I may make a good first impression but once they get to know me I become friend-zoned. The difference between most guys and myself though, is that I'm ok with this. I don't feel inadequate because of it... don't get me wrong - I would love to be with a woman who suits me. But you see this is where I differ from Steve - while Steve would actively go out and track her down using every trick in the book and putting immense desire and energy into it, I am comfortable simply being myself without expectation.
Does this mean what I do is ideal? Well, I don't know. But this is how I am and this is how I'm comfortable, and I do feel a lot of joy and peace in my life. It's not like I'm depressed (although I certainly was depressed back when I judged myself by society's standards, but today that is just a distant memory).
If you have some criticism of me, please, I invite it. I'm not looking to be coddled