Originally Posted by yossarian
My question is about HOW TO BE A MAN. What does it mean? Am I *not* a man? I really only fit about 3 out of 10 of Steve's criteria. Would you say I am feminine or perhaps just neither?
Of course you ARE a man. Who cares about how many of Steve's criteria you fit. Steve's post is one
way amongst many to be a conscious man.
Maybe you have predominantly round energy (the one they call "feminine"), maybe it's just a matter of personality... who cares... Just be who you are. Genuine is sexy
Originally Posted by Pequod
I'm wondering whether there are more man who don't feel compelled to do the 'social domination game' (in my opinion pointless ego-boosting), but yet feel definately masculine and are comfortable with it.
There are many of them. Not only who aren't interested in the social domination game, but also who totally don't resonate with Steve's post. And who are very manly and real men.
Reminds me of an anecdote. I was dancing tango argentino with one of those "round" guys. I was teaching him how to lead, and explaining all the tango stereotype masculinity stuff to him. "Show me that you're the MAN here, I told him, you want to lead and conquer me!" He looked at me with a very bored expression on his face and said "Not really, no..."
Oh it was priceless. And he was so right. Just because you don't fit such stereotypes doesn't mean you're less of a man.