Originally Posted by yossarian
My question is not about solving my particular "problem" which I don't really consider to be a problem. My question is about HOW TO BE A MAN. What does it mean? Am I *not* a man? I really only fit about 3 out of 10 of Steve's criteria. Would you say I am feminine or perhaps just neither?
Allright, let's just put aside the actual circumstances. This is the important question. Now you've already listed a how you don't really feel connected to that part of you, but more the feminine side. I know just what you're going through.
This isn't something that happens overnight though. The good thing is, all the stuff you're talking about, is meaningless, and will die away when you embrace a new identity. No one is going to be "attacking you" and if they DID, your response would be MUCH different.
Check out the links I gave you, explore them for awhile and then let me know later, what you think.