Originally Posted by cylon
Dude you didn't give any SPECIFIC examples from your life! You're talking about being attacked all the time, like in a Kung-Fu movie? Are there guns involved?
I didn't see anything in your post that indicated you knew what qustion you were asking. It was just a hodge-podge of feelings and victim mentality.
Of course I was just like this, I thought I was the victim and the world was out to get me. If you want different results (cliche time) start doing something different. I'll PM you.
It's not victim mentality. You read my bluntness as victimhood, I am totally peaceful with this reality. I am perfectly happy to Buddha-laugh at the people who question my beingness, which I do do, by the way. It's a laugh of understanding because I don't understand myself any more than they do. I just know that I Am and that is it. They ask me, "Why are you so passive?" and I shake my head slowly and shrug and say, "I have no freakin' idea, dude-bro-dude!" (Add more "dudes", "bros" and "freakins" the more manly the crowd gets! Also a random F bomb is very endearing among the Manly types, the less sense it makes in the sentence, the better!)
"If you want different results tart doing something different. "
- Mystery Method
My question is not about solving my particular "problem" which I don't really consider to be a problem. My question is about HOW TO BE A MAN. What does it mean? Am I *not* a man? I really only fit about 3 out of 10 of Steve's criteria. Would you say I am feminine or perhaps just neither?
The attacks are all verbal, just your basic insults and domination stuff - stuff you should be very familiar with if you read that PUA stuff which it sounds like you do. (You are using the tactics anyway all over this thread) Rarely do people get physical with someone who doesn't react strongly to their verbal barrage.
I'm not really interested in all the social domination stuff, but I am interested in the more ephemeral aspect of masculinity.