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Originally Posted by yossarian  Having said that, people have called me overly masculine before. Women at times have called me an insensitive jerk, emotionally distant, uncaring and selfish, stuff like that. The irony is that these insults have always cut me deeply  |
This is not necessarily a bad thing, believe it or not. You'd have to give more specific examples.
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Originally Posted by yossarian Men have often called me a *****, a fag, stuff like that. Sometimes they don't even mean it as an insult! This one guy I worked with used to honestly asked me, "Why are you such a *****?" and all I could really do is answer, "I'm so sorry, I have no idea." I honestly believe he didn't mean it as an insult, I think I was just an enigma to him. He would look at me and tilt his head like I was some kind of strange creature from the sea that he was trying to identify.
So men call me too girly, and women call me too manly.
Any help?  |
This goes with the masculine shame. Men are embarrassed about their own masculinity and doubt it, so they take it out on others. I grew up being called names like this too. It hurts to be ostracized like that, but in reality, they are having issues.
About your work friend, I don't know the circumstances. Either you have problems being assertive or he's got issues. DO you have problems being assertive?