By the way, Tyler Durden's RSD is basically the definition of how to be a modern darkworker. And Tyler Durden himself is an accomplished darkworker, or was at least the last time I read him. He's a brilliant guy, an evil genius.
There is nothing quite like shaming EVERYONE YOU EVER MEET into submission, using every manipulation tactic that can possible be discovered to take total control of all the people around you.
Having said that, if I ever met Tyler Durden in real life, he would take all my girls. But I wouldn't be shamed for a moment and I wouldn't buy into his reality. I would retain my own peaceful, quiet world and I would look out to him with compassion and love. He would verbally slap me and I would turn the other cheek. I've done it enough in my life to know I can stand up to Tyler Durden. He has spent his life and all his energy developing manipulation tactics but they are nothing next to the passive and silent peace that I so often am. He is like a raging hurricane and I am a mountain with deep roots. He would whip me and strip me but I would still stand.
So anyway I guess this "rock like" passivity is not masculinity but it doesn't seem like femininity either. To me the genders don't really define these things anyway.. the elements are a better metaphor.
I would say that Steve is Fire. Raging, burning, consuming, always growing, always pressing forward.
I would say that I am Earth, which is not all that remarkable and not very romantic. Earth just sort of "is" and you don't notice it doing anything, though it does have plans
Food for thought