[Apollia]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

That's what I meant with "trying everything in our power", nothing more.

OK, got it.

What makes us grow is not necessarily what feels most comfortable.

I agree, this is true oftentimes.

Plus, how can we tell him to take responsibility for his own life, and simultaneously try to avoid hurting his feelings - thus taking responsibility for him? That's none of our business. How he chooses to feel about it is his decision.

Hmm, yes, good points. Too often I go out of my way to soften my words, so, I have to admit, I admire those who have the guts to be a little harsh if it's called for.

However, sometimes the situation is really too delicate to use harsh words. People sometimes do commit suicide over harsh things people say. That's all I'm worried about. Not that you've said anything really incredibly horrible, but when someone is down in the dumps enough, they can be very sensitive (as you probably already realize).

So, I'm glad you've spelled it out so much that you definitely do care about Chado.

Like it's now, I feel that we are enabling a situation that's not helpful for him. His relationship with the forum kinda reminds me of co-dependency.

Well, I'm not familiar enough with the situation to judge whether this is true for Chado or not, but, I know from experience (and from having friends with forum addictions) that it's definitely very possible to misuse forums.

Steve wrote a good article on this topic: Effective Online Forum Usage

Yup. Not only did he emerge unscathed, he even got energized. I could feel some of his true spirit shine through. I could see Chad the Fighter for a short moment and was very happy about it

Well, I'm glad to hear that he has some fighting spirit.

I really do care about Chad.

I believe it.

Anger is better than apathy.

Yes, true in my experience, sometimes. I also find it's better than abject helpless despair.

Anyhow, I guess that's all I have to add here for now. Good luck everyone.