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Originally Posted by Apollia  When people seem to be refusing to help themselves, it can be very frustrating. I guess the way I avoid frustration is just by thinking to myself, it's their life, so, they're perfectly entitled to take my advice or leave it, and if I can't accept their choices, that's my problem. |
I do accept Chado's choice. Of course it's his life and his right not to take our advice. I'm perfectly fine with that, I'm even perfectly fine with him being depressed. As I already said, I'm not being angry, and I'm not being frustrated either.
My thought is that this is a PD forum. We're explicitly here to help each other grow. Chad is not posting here by mistake, and he has been stuck for many months now. My opinion is that we're not helping him grow at the moment. I can totally accept
his not wanting to grow, but not that
we don't try everything in our power. We're not doing our job!
Of course maybe the "tough love" approach won't work with him. But everything else - the sending love, the nice support and well meant advice - didn't work either. So what are we going to do now? Continue like this for years, or change our strategy and try something new? I say, it's worth taking the risk.