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Originally Posted by Hue  'Best thing would be if you were self confident and being happy with yourself'. I know this advice is well intentioned but I find 'be yourself/be happy' advice to be very vague and unactionable.
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My first impression is that you have an incongruity between what you desire (a strong personality) and what you think can fix it.
What you need to do is figure out what you want. Do you wish to posses such a presence as to never be bullied again? You can accomplish that with physical changes only.
Do you wish to have a winning personality? That doesn't happen in the gym.
Strong personalities have nothing to do with physical strength. Some of the bulkiest men never speak because they
have no personalities. (The brainless bouncer at the local dance club) Some of the most accomplished martial artists, dare I say the
REAL martial artists, would never consider being loud, brash, demanding or behave in an overt way. (The character Seriph in The Matrix..)
Personality. It can be developed. Molded. Bad habits downplayed and good ones enhanced. But the biggest risk is trying too hard and seeming like a goober. People can see through fake personalities.
Jennifer