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Originally Posted by Foggy  Relaxing would be easier as long as I was confident that developing humor is possible and that I was making progress. |
All it really takes is confidence that you really do want to develop humor. I say that as if it's so easy. It is. It's so easy that everybody has trouble with it, because everything worthwhile in life is supposed to be hard work. Then when we find out that something isn't hard work, that if we allow it to it will happen, we don't know what to do other than to try to work hard at it.
But you can't work hard at being confident, because you only work hard for things you don't have. Working hard at being confident is the antithesis of confidence. By working hard at it, you reinforce the idea that you don't have it. Just let yourself want this, and the rest will happen with no "work" at all.