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Originally Posted by metamorph  If I don't even raise the issue, how would I know if people are not "ready" to get it? |
If you feel attached in any way to them *getting* it, then it's not them that's ready, it's YOU that is ripe for a lesson.
When you are totally, 100% accepting of who they are and who they are not, with zero emotional charge in needing them to change or to get what you are trying to give them, then you'll know you're acting out of love and generosity, rather than projection.
Of course you can talk about something you've noticed in people's lives, like you just wrote to {aspiring}, of course you can be compassionate and offer unsolicited observation or unattached suggestion. What you have described in this thread does not sound anything like observation or suggestion, though -- it sounds just like emotional charge and attachment. That's why the responders here have counseled you so strongly to look again.
"Unattached" by the way does not mean "cowboy." It's not a matter of being separate, independent and unconcerned. It's a matter of being totally compassionate and loving, and granting people the freedom to be exactly who they are and exactly who they are not, regardless of what you think they *should* be. As long as you harbor thoughts of what your parents *should* be or do, you'll know you are being attached, and you are not generating freedom of love -- you'll know it's YOU, not them.