The best advice I have is learn to make peace with uncertainty. Realistically, there is no certainty about the future. We all desire absolute security (financially, emotionally, physically) but this is just a fantasy that can never be realized.
People try so hard to force this certainty into life by never changing jobs, never trying new things, wearing the same clothes for years, never opening their heart to someone else, but it's all for naught; total security is not possible, not even close.
Like Angela said, if you commit to taking 100% responsibility for your life, whatever form it takes, there is no reason to worry about the future.
Also, learn to identify compulsive thinking about the future, and let go of it whenever you notice you are doing it. Bring your attention back to the present moment, and remind yourself you can only act NOW, and do the most sensible thing. Worrisome thoughts will keep popping up; don't let them snowball, they serve no purpose.
Thoughts are not facts; we have thousands of them everyday... they're just the brain's conditioned opinions and are most often unreliable. It is not perilous to take them with a grain of salt. In fact, it is quite dangerous to trust them fully. Trust your physical senses over your thoughts, they give you better quality information.
The future is just another thought; you can't know it by thinking about it, only by watching it unfold. Enjoy the process! Life is nothing but this process.  |