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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  cylon, I think a truly masculine man doesn't need to pick on women about their emotionality, to repeatedly bring his sex drive and toughness out or to cite books with martial titles in order to back up his masculinity.
To be honest, I personally don't perceive you as very masculine. No matter how strained you play the Male, the vibes I keep getting from you are predominantly round, or to use your own labels, feminine.
Are you sure it's not your judgments about yourself ("I was a wuss") that are pushing you into trying to be what you are not? |
I agree... partially at least. Once we start equating "femininity" with cowardice (i.e. being a "wuss") we've missed the point. It starts looking like ad hominems, in other words weak brainpower.
A lot of men react to their feminine side, their "rounder energy", with contempt once they've identified it (even if it's clearly not dominant). So they rush like madmen to polarize the opposite direction, which is only counterproductive. Women are friggin excellent at picking up that "vibe" - or might we call it the location on the conscious-oriented/preconscious spectrum - the one that tells them that something is clearly off beat (excuse the stereotyping, but it's absolutely necessary).
I suppose there's an equivalent for this in women - excessive polarization or whatever you wish to call it - although I'm not sure if its equally common. You know better perhaps?