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Originally Posted by Perfect Sunday  Hi,
I write the following with the best intentions, so although it will sound harsh, I wish you the very best. 
Ok, I don't blame her for cheating on you.
Dude, you have been engaged for 2 years.
TWO full years.
Over six-hundred days!
My lord... why??
I bet she thinks it will never happen.
I re-read your post and I'm slacked jawed.
She has no respect for you... because you have no respect for you. Why should she??
As to your girlfriend, it is clear that she could be a very "sexually active" person... and that is fine!
But, truth be told, you are not working out for her in that department.
It is possible that deep down you do not like her that much.
So... you're going to leave her?
And why can't you stay in the same house?
I think I missed something.
Your friends that have flats are in the forces... so... I don't get it.
Why don't you keep on staying in that house?
Is she the owner? Or the one that pays rent?
If she is neither, just break up with her, and get her stuff out of your new room.
Again, I woudn't blame her.
Yet clearly, you and her are not on the same track.
My 0.02 |
To date they've been engaged for 2 years, she cheated on him first in Feb 2007 which would mean they were engaged maybe for a year at that point.
Do you really think a cheating partner has justification for their action because they aren't married yet? That's as low as you can go.
If you are mature and I'm assuming you are mature if you want to get married, accept an engagement ring which means that you've accepted the proposal and want to get married and then cheat on your fiance, how is that his fault?
We are all responsible for our own actions. When we do something to hurt our partner, specifically cheating on them as in this example, the only person at fault is the person who is sleeping around. You always have the choice to return the engagement ring, break off the engagement and go your separate way. That would be the mature & adult thing to do. Remaining engaged and cheating on your partner is an immature & destructive thing to do and a total relationship killer.
Don't blame your actions on what someone else has done or not done. You did what you did and you are responsible for that action. Blaming the cheating because they haven't been married yet after 2 years of engagement (and technically maybe only 1 year when she first cheated on him) is just brainless.
Perfect Sunday, What planet do you live on where you can justify your crap behavior like cheating because your partner hasn't married you yet? I thought I heard everything until I read your post. Unreal!!!
