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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  ...he SEEMED to be into all this personal development/the truth about life/new ways of thinking,etc. but after chatting to him only twice,he is telling me that he doesnt believe i'm telling the truth about myself,he thinks i'm in denial about wanting a boyfriend because "everyone needs somebody",he thinks i'm out of touch with reality because i choose to focus on the positive and i laugh a lot,and he said rude comments about my friends and guys i've dated. |
That's unfortunate he's so ready to make assumptions. Based on what you said, he sounds kind of negative in general. Perhaps he's saying you're in denial because he doesn't know how to deal with the truth. Instead of building trust and respect from you, and earning your admiration, things that often take time and patience, he's trying to mold you to his standards. He also sounds like he's trying to boost himself by putting down your friends and ex-boyfriends. Does he seem to have control issues, like trying to tell you what to do or how to think?
Unfortunately, there's a lot of desperate guys out there now. They don't perceive anything they have to offer, which might actually represent a failure of society. Expectations of a mate have been artificially inflated by commercialism and media content. For example, on CSI all you see is supermodel types and brutish, muscular firemen calendar men. Now days, you won't see anyone average on TV. Back in the 70's average looking people were common in entertainment. So average is no longer good enough. There are a lot of lonely people out there as a result.
Anyway, many of these guys who feel inadequate are turning to disingenuous sources of self-improvement like Fast Seduction 101 and Neuro-linguistic Programing. These are methods that promote control and manipulation of people to get what one wants rather than trying to make oneself a better person who has more to offer. Maybe this guy is trying to use techniques he learned from one of those types of programs?