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My question to you is if it's really necessary for you to confront your parents to find peace in your life?

Based on my own personal experience in dealing with child abuse issues that seem to control your life and make you view your life and the people in with a specific set of "glasses".

Finding peace & harmony in your life doesn't require you to confront your parents.

Alot of things done to you while you are a child do in fact shape & mold you in the person you become. We don't know any better growing up, we learn from our parents because that's what kids are supposed to do.

However, there comes a time in your life when you become an adult and you should know between right & wrong hopefully and can finally take control of your life and take it in the direction you really want to go in.

It isn't easy and you may find yourself struggling before you get clarity on this.

Another hard lesson to learn is not to use your poor childhood experiences as a crutch for the way you act as an adult currently in your life. It's easy to do this, easy to fall into this trap and think nothing of it.

We are all responsible for our actions and if we do things and blame our negative childhood for those actions, we are actually just lying to ourselves. We're in control of our actions & our thoughts, we choose to do what we do and can't blame anyone else for our actions. The only person you can really control is yourself, no one else.

One thing for certain is this, you didn't get to choose your childhood and no one chooses to be a victim either. However, when you grow up and become an adult, you can choose to continue being a victim or you can choose to be a survivor/thriver who lets go of their past and let's go of those childhood things that hurt us so much. You can't forget the past but you can choose whether or not you live in the past and continue to focus all your energy on the past which leaves you with very little energy to live & exist in the present. Or you can choose to remember the past but live in the present, you can know with peace of mind that you couldn't control your childhood experiences but you do now have power to control your adulthood experiences and knowing you have that power to form the life you really want to live is exciting once you embrace that ability.

Unlock your inner potential, let go of your past, keep pressing forward, become a better person for yourself and you will see that you don't need to confront anyone about your past to have peace in the present. The only person you need to deal with and focus on is you.

I will also add the speaking to a therapist, a counsellor or a psychiatrist can help as well. Also have a good group of friends that don't mind lending an ear to allow you to vent your frustrations can also help alot.

Sharing your problem in this online forum helps alot too, I'm sure. You get a wide variety of feedback on your issue and get to experience different viewpoints on your specific issue which helps you look at your problem from many different angles, more so than if you just dealt with this yourself without anyone else's assistance.

Let us know how this works out, we're all interested in this topic and I'm sure we all wish you the best in achieving the peace you need in life.