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Originally Posted by metamorph  But at the end of the day it is your family not some strangers. Is it really different from making someone close to you aware of other dangers (e.g. tell them to go to a doctor because they did not realise that they could have diabetes or hypertension)? |
Well, I think a lot of people are closed off to being made aware of physical dangers too. They don't want to hear that they will need to stop smoking and eat better to avoid that bypass. But, from my own experience, I can tell you that trying to make people understand just doesn't work and it drags you down in the process. You can be a light, a guide and the answerer of questions. My bf has some old pain. Me too. It's something I've been working with Angela on. I've made a lot of progress and continue to learn from the things she's taught me. I know it would help him. But if I tried to tell him he needed to do this process, he'd blow it off. He doesn't like being told what to do. Funny, no one really does. Something in one of Steve's articles comes into my head whenever I think of this topic. I went to grab the quote and realized it's just a short Q & A and each sentence is pertinent:
Ask Steve - Helping Stubborn People Quote:
Originally Posted by metamorph Also, I feel I was "born" 5 years ago, and before that I just "existed" (unaware), and, in a way, I wish it had happened earlier (with some help). Maybe you are right, that I wolud not have been receptive to it, but who knows. Nobody tried. |
What if they did try, but you were so ingrained in your way of being that you didn't even notice? You couldn't reject it because it didn't even appear on your radar it was so foreign. I feel the same as you that I was basically reborn recently and am just now really discovering what life is about. But as I've learned so much, I've realized some of the faint pointers from the past. They didn't even register in my consciousness back then, but they must have pointed me to the path I am on today. You can leave those guideposts for people in the way you live your life. And when they are ready to make a leap in consciousness, you will be the one they call to help them out or to celebrate with them.
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Originally Posted by metamorph Another example: my parents have a friend you is 75 years old and who literally "never got it". To an extent that he had lived alone on 400 dollars a month without heating, health insurance, proper food etc for the last 40 years. He never had a girlfriend. And there is literally no obvious reason (he looks normal, has a uni degree etc) why he ended up like this other than very severe limiting beliefs which become very obvious when you meet him. He still dreams of getting a wife, but everyone knows he never will. Just imagine how his life might have been different if somebody had made him aware of his limiting beliefs when he was 25 years old. What if someone keeps doing the wrong things all his life without realising there is another way? |
I don't think there's a wrong way to live. It's taken me a long time to get to that point, but right now it feels very true to me. Everyone is doing the best they can. We are all in a different stage, we all have different lessons to learn. And we can't progress until we get them, so some of us keep going in circles out of stubborness (*raises hand*).