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Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}  Looking back from your current perspective, it's easy to say you wish you knew all of this before...wish someone had told you. However, 10 or 20 years ago had someone told you "you should select your input carefully and march to your own drum" you may have dismissed them. It may not have been relevant to you then. We are each on a path and we learn things when we are ready to learn them. Everything happens in perfect time.
Personal Development is by definition personal. There's no need to keep it to yourself, but the desire to change someone else (even for their own good) is misguided in my opinion. If they are not aware, you cannot make them aware by telling them they should be. I tend to think that simply living your life in consciousness and awareness is the best example to others. Blame and "shoulds" have a negative effect on everyone involved. Your intent is good, but the execution would probably not have the results you want if done in the manner you are talking about.
It's a pain, I know, to have some new knowledge that you are so inspired by and not be able to have other people in your life "get it." But they have their own things to learn and you have plenty more to do yourself. So focus on you and then live your truth. And then when they ask about your glowing new delicious looking life, you can let them in on what you've discovered. |
Great post, thanks!
I think you understand where I am coming form, and, yes, I guess you are right. I do not want to be like some (religious) "missionary". Maybe self-help is truly personal. You are right, maybe 20 years ago I would not have had "receptors" to understand these concepts and maybe everyone needs to find the way oneself.
But at the end of the day it is your family not some strangers. Is it really different from making someone close to you aware of other dangers (e.g. tell them to go to a doctor because they did not realise that they could have diabetes or hypertension)?
Also, I feel I was "born" 5 years ago, and before that I just "existed" (unaware), and, in a way, I wish it had happened earlier (with some help). Maybe you are right, that I wolud not have been receptive to it, but who knows. Nobody tried. Another example: my parents have a friend you is 75 years old and who literally "never got it". To an extent that he had lived alone on 400 dollars a month without heating, health insurance, proper food etc for the last 40 years. He never had a girlfriend. And there is literally no obvious reason (he looks normal, has a uni degree etc) why he ended up like this other than very severe limiting beliefs which become very obvious when you meet him. He still dreams of getting a wife, but everyone knows he never will. Just imagine how his life might have been different if somebody had made him aware of his limiting beliefs when he was 25 years old. What if someone keeps doing the wrong things all his life without realising there is another way?