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What do you do when you screwed up?
Sure you should learn from your mistakes, what does that mean?
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It means there is no reason to interpret failure as a negative event. Unless you throw up your hands and give up, then any given failure only brings you closer to success.
The problem occurs when we subconsciously believe that a given failure becomes a permanent part of us. We have a tendency to make past failures into a part of our identity. "Who am I?... Oh yeah I'm that guy who sucks at running a business."
The kind of conditioning that results is not helpful. We place a disproportionate amount of importance on avoiding the emotional sting of failure that it often prevents us from trying anything again. So often people deny themselves a chance at what they want because they cannot face the prospect of the emotional sting of losing.
How much it hurts depends on how much you let the loss define you. If you are aware than your identity cannot be defined by ANY events in your life, then loss or failure does not hurt.
As soon as you can stop feeding the emotional response to failure with compulsive thinking, it has no negative effect on future attempts. You never have a choice but to continue your life from where you are. Always. So there is never a good reason to lament failure.