Jaamkie, my experience is that it's very easy to make friends with women by being a leader in values-based conversation. Almost all of the women I've been interested in being friends with have responded with surprise, engagement and delight to this way of being. They usually express some sort of: "Yay! It's so nice to talk about Real Stuff!!"
For me, I'm committed to generating love, joy, connection and freedom in all my conversations. I've talked about some of the things I'll talk about with someone new, some questions that I ask, elsewhere in these forums. Some people in the forums, but very few I approach in the real world, freak out a little and think it's "weird" to ask real questions about who we really are, what we're really passionate about, what we're really up to in life. (that may be because it's easier in the real world to "spot" people who will likely welcome values-based conversation.) Freakers may feel invaded or wary of questions; they may feel outraged or threatened or unready, maybe based on their own old pain. The Freakers probably won't be a good match for my friendship anyway, so it's not a bad thing to weed out any strays, and limit my intimacy to the Yay-Sayers.
There are so many Yay-Sayers in the world. You have the power to generate, unveil and nurture the Yay.