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Originally Posted by Yellow  Angela, how do you propose dealing with people like that especially if they are someone you are or have been close to? |
I'm not sure who you mean by "people like that" but I think you mean people you love but who want to feed you negativity, so I'll answer that. There's the empowering way of being, and then there's the Advanced Extra Credit Empowering way of being.
The EWoB includes the Steve Pavlina advice above: be grateful anyway. Also: remember that just because someone offers you something you don't want, that doesn't mean you have to accept it. "You need to lose some weight, honey!" "Thanks, mom; I'm happy with my body right now. I appreciate your input."
The AECEWoB involves looking and finding your own inner truth of what someone is offering you, even if (
especially if) your buttons get pushed. It's not hard to find. "You need to lose some weight, honey!" {{{{{"Hmmm, let's see; I do need to lose some weight eventually, when I die, and for right now I'm feeling pretty vital so it's not my body that needs to lose weight right now. Let me look a little further: is there some area of my life where I'm heavy? I am pretty heavily in debt; that's some "weight" I could stand to let go of. I don't have much sense of lightness about what my mom says to me -- I do tend to get pretty heavy-hearted and heavy-handed with her. Looks like she's right!}}}} OUT LOUD: "Mom, you are so right -- I can see some areas in my life where it would serve me well to lose some weight." [Mom smiles and pats your hand.]