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Rafael Perez · 05-13-2008, 09:02 PM

You will be surprised to know that I felt the same way. Wow, two wierd people out in the world. I want you to know that there is no such thing as normal. Everyone is wierd and that is a wonderful thing.

You are focusing on a lot of negative about yourself. A rule of thumb is "you are what you say you are." If these are your dominant beliefs then this is the reality you are creating.

You sound like you have a high awareness of self, everyone lies. There was a study and it was found that the average person lies about three times every ten minutes.

A good first step for you is to stop trying to impress everyone and just be yourself. Become your own best friend, once you do that and start to look at all your quirks as something wonderful you will attract people to you that will love you for you. Then you could be yourself.

You acknowledge the lies and the manipulation, now just stop lying about things, make it only your truth that leaves your lips. Then you could focus on a relationship where the person will fall in love for who you are.

Unconditional love does exist, do not compromise who you are and do not allow someone to compromise who they are for you. Do not expect things from them and just love them for who they are and do things for them without expecting any type of reaction.

The problem with majority of relationships is that we enter them lying to ourself and others and will jump through hoops to keep that person around. You end up doing things that are not in line with yourself and eventually resent that person when they do not meet your needs.

Go in with full honesty;a good example:

You say "I love you."

what you should say is "I am saying I love you, because I need to hear you say I love you back to me, because I need someone to show me love because I just can't love myself."

Just be honest with yourself, love yourself for the unique person you are. No one out there could be a better you than you. Stop trying to meet the worlds expectations of normal, there is no such thing... just be you.

You are perfect, you are amazing, you are great.

05-13-2008, 09:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
Rafael Perez Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Chicago Posts: 51	Who am I? You will be surprised to know that I felt the same way. Wow, two wierd people out in the world. I want you to know that there is no such thing as normal. Everyone is wierd and that is a wonderful thing. You are focusing on a lot of negative about yourself. A rule of thumb is "you are what you say you are." If these are your dominant beliefs then this is the reality you are creating. You sound like you have a high awareness of self, everyone lies. There was a study and it was found that the average person lies about three times every ten minutes. A good first step for you is to stop trying to impress everyone and just be yourself. Become your own best friend, once you do that and start to look at all your quirks as something wonderful you will attract people to you that will love you for you. Then you could be yourself. You acknowledge the lies and the manipulation, now just stop lying about things, make it only your truth that leaves your lips. Then you could focus on a relationship where the person will fall in love for who you are. Unconditional love does exist, do not compromise who you are and do not allow someone to compromise who they are for you. Do not expect things from them and just love them for who they are and do things for them without expecting any type of reaction. The problem with majority of relationships is that we enter them lying to ourself and others and will jump through hoops to keep that person around. You end up doing things that are not in line with yourself and eventually resent that person when they do not meet your needs. Go in with full honesty;a good example: You say "I love you." what you should say is "I am saying I love you, because I need to hear you say I love you back to me, because I need someone to show me love because I just can't love myself." Just be honest with yourself, love yourself for the unique person you are. No one out there could be a better you than you. Stop trying to meet the worlds expectations of normal, there is no such thing... just be you. You are perfect, you are amazing, you are great. __________________ Author Rafi Perez Last edited by Rafael Perez; 05-13-2008 at 09:04 PM.