[Rafael Perez]

Hhhhmmmm.... I'll start off by saying that there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little infatuation. Now if you cross over to the realm of obsession, then it gets a little hairy.

We all fear a failed relationship. Our problem is that we look back at relationships that we have had and focus on the problems and project them on to our new relationships.

The problems in our relationship has nothing to do with you not being good enough. It has to do with honesty. From your statement and correct me if I am wrong, he has treated you in a positive way. Do you feel that you need him in order to feel good about yourself. This could be dangerous, it is a high expectation of someone to put them in a position with that much power over your emotions.

You start to feel like you need this person. Try focusing on the things that make you happy for you. If he pops into your head for most of the day, that is ok, as long as you are doing things for yourself that make you happy.

Put your focus on you. what do you want out of life? Go for it, try to stay away from the thought of "I need him to be happy"

Most infatuation and obsession stems from the fear of being alone. Take this time to focus on how wonderful you are. Take what he has told you and start to believe it for yourself... So much so to the point that you really don't need him to say these things because you already know them.

Remember that we all choose our own path in life, he may choose you he may not... Choose your path for you and focus on what you want out of a relationship, it may be him it may be someone better coming along.

Ask yourself these questions..

Do I need this person, if yes... why?
what do I want out of life?
Am I compromising who I am or compromising who he is?

I went through the same thing... I stopped obsessing about her, I think of her all the time but I am not limiting my happiness to being with her. I love her with no conditions or expectations.

What if he said he never wants to speak to you again, would you still think he was amazing.