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Originally Posted by metamorph  I really, really love them. They are the people who mean everything to me. |
I get that about you!
If you really want to make a difference for them, maybe you could try switching your perspective a little. I mean, even to me, a stranger, your point of view smacked strongly of blame and making wrong, though it doesn't seem that way to you. That's not what you want to leave them with, I know. You want to give them awareness? Be Aware!
How about trying on a new way of being around this? I would suggest taking on 100% responsibility in your conversation with them, if you must have one. Like: "Mom and Dad, I love you so much, you mean everything to me. I am so grateful to you for everything you've provided for me, all the support you've given me, throughout my life. In the past, I haven't heard you so clearly -- sometimes I heard criticism when you only meant to give me strength and protection. I'm sorry that I wasn't able to hear the love in your words at times, because I was focusing on my own fears. I am very grateful to have gotten through that fearful time, with your help and love. Thank you! Now I feel like I've really gotten what you wanted to give me all along -- strength, courage, boldness, peace, and love. Am I missing anything?"
Or, you could say, "Mom and Dad, you really screwed up my childhood and my self-esteem, but I'm okay now and I forgive you for all your terrible mistakes. Don't you feel better?"
