You are right!
But then, I really do not want to
blame them. I really, really love them. They are the people who mean everything to me. They were always supportive. I just think if discussing these things (without blame) could help free them from some fears or problems too. I mean, there is a subconscious
reason why they keep still keep doing it or am I wrong? And would not raising awareness of this help both me and them? (Hope this makes sense). But then, maybe everyone is really only responsible for his own "happiness" and "inner peace" (?)
So yes, I want to avoid blaming, but does this mean I should not raise the issue at all?