Rockchick, there will come a point when you will not be engaged in the drama of others' lives at all. You will see many behaviours for what they really are- ego based need fulfillment or habitual behaviours. It won't really matter if they are angry with you for not buying into their drama. I find that when I am present enough to not get sucked in (always a work in progress) others who are acting out their drama tend to catch a glimpse of enlightenment because I'm not feeding it with my own energy.
An example: my mother was in a fit because she just found out that my niece was having her second child (within 16 months) out of wedlock. My brother chose to withhold this news until less than a month before the due date.
As my mother railed, I sat and listened (observed, really), said nothing, with a neutral expression on my face. I just didn't buy into the drama. After a couple of minutes she stopped, had a confused look cross her face and then said "I don't know why I'm so upset about this".
If I had fed into her tizzy, she would never have had that moment of clarity. I believe that is the power of disengaging from the drama.  |