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Originally Posted by Rockchick26  I have this problem too,this might be why i have such problems with dating. Like the last guy i dated,he would only call me when he wanted to show off his new car (he's had a few) or something he bought for his car. I told him i was not into material things but he still kept calling to brag about something he did to his car.
I have this problem with friends too,its hard to find friends who dont gossip,backstab,complain,and talk about celebrities' lives.
I'm curious to see what people say about this. My advice (even to myself) is not to worry about it cuz if you can be happy alone,why destroy all your progress by dating someone who doesn't fit into your world? MUCH easier said than done,i know...i still get lonely a lot cuz i don't have anyone to talk to about things that matter to me,except for on these boards  |
I know what you mean.
Well, some colleagues see me as a "narcistic" loner, because I do not socialise much with them for the exact same reasons you mentioned (gossiping, negativity, reactivity etc). They don't understand why I rather spend time alone than with them in social groups. I just don't like "social opportunism" (my definition: socialising only to stop you feel lonely even if the other people are not on your wave-lenght). They can
see and feel that I am genuinely very happy and fulfilled alone, probably much more happy than they will ever feel in the group. But, because this is not part of their reality, they think I must be a so called "narcistic" loner, who only cares for himself. Not that I care about their opinion, though! They would always prefer socialising to being for alone yourself.
Although I truly am happy alone, I find it sad in a way, because I like people in general. I just wished there were more people on my wave-lenght.