I'm going through the same thing , so I know how you feel. In the past whenever I became interested in someone, I'd immediately go out and learn as much about them as possible. And in the end it would never work out for one reason or another. I was always trying to find a way to "win" the person over
Presently I've found myself falling for someone, but I've taken a step back and have really gotten honest with myself. The first thing I did was ask this question:
How would a relationship with this person make me feel?
I realized that being with this potential mate would possibly make me feel loved and more confident. Then I asked myself if I was feeling confident and loved in my life as a single person. At that time, which was a few weeks ago, my answer was no. I was working at a job that was dragging me down and I stopped going to the gym. In other words I was feeling down.
My answer to that question was a wake up call for me to get back on track. Since then I've gone back to the gym. started dressing to the 9's again, and am looking for a new job.
Now of course I still like my crush, but I'm not spending too much time trying to figure out if they like me or not. Instead I'm taking it slow and investing more time creating the life I want.
In the beginning this approach might seem awful because you have to detach yourself from thinking about your love interest all the time. But the more you think about wanting to be with them, especially wanting to be with them and only them, you actually push them away. When you want to attract something or someone into your life, you have to know what you want, but be willing to let go of how it will manifest. That means wanting to be with the person, but only if it's for the highest good. Perhaps this person might be for you, or may there is someone more suited. But only the Universe knows that.
So intend to manifest a relationship with this guy, but be open to how it will happen. And if it works out great, if not it's still okay. Perhaps there is someone better suited for you waiting around the corner.
I hope my answer has helped. Sorry it's sooo long
