Helgi said, "The thing is, I've experienced how approaching people on this level can change
everything. It's amazing, and really what's more likely to occur than rejection and offense is that people become more calm and peaceful."
In a way, Helgi, this entire conversation is hanging on the hope that we are all in an atmosphere of trust and good faith, where we can let ourselves be vulnerable without a fear of getting trampled.
So far so good. I've read the whole thread and it seems that people are willing to engage. So it's all good. I usually feel awkward at social gatherings where I don't know anyone. I try to fit in but have trouble finding a context. Small talk is usually just that...small. I guess you could always ask the regular question, " So, what do you do?" and hope for the best. I would much rather have a prolonged discussion about a subject of mutual interest, maybe with some resolution at the end. Better yet, a discussion that leads to a creative collaboration. Something real instead of just more small talk. I am happiest engaged in talk of some substance with people that are willing to go beyond the trivial.
In fact I really, REALLY invite this into my life!
Maybe a lot of the awkwardness in groups comes from the experience that most people just want to
talk on the surface. The thrill is when you run into someone who is willing to go with you to a deeper place.
I visited your
EVERYDAY WONDERLAND site and I am deeply impressed. The ideas that you float are impossibly hard to resist. What could be better than creating one's own wonderland of possibilities at will? It is heady stuff. Maybe your clarification takes us one step closer to living 'The Secret'...
What could be better for our soul-growth then deep happiness? On a daily basis?
