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Originally Posted by Bitsy  She can be, if it is really her authentic self. Most of the time, though, it feels contrived or like it's being flaunted for the specific purpose of causing people to believe she really is that way and to give off a feeling like "don't mess with me!". She has to know herself intimately and then be what she is, not feign being one way or another because of something society or someone else dictates or thinks, even if being that way means being ridiculed or thought badly of. It's the same if a woman is pretending to be more feminine than she naturally is. It's a question of knowing yourself intimately and then being that.
I feel that women, more than men, are responsive to superficial matters, like what others think and feel about them and end up donning facades or a certain personality to veil who they really are inside and so that they are perceived in the way they want others to perceive them, which is not their genuine selves, in fact, I think by doing that, they may even lose touch with who they really are inside, or may even don such a personality to avoid confronting themselves. |
That's true... I used to be that way for a long time. I was the only one without a boybriend (enter teen angst and violin music) and started behaving in a ridiculous girly way to make myself look more 'womanly'. I've never been so unhappy in my life, because that was just not me. I'm a real tomboy, a tad thickheaded and have the grace of a granola bar. I wouldn't be caught dead wearing a skirt, can read a map better than most guys and math used to be my favorite subject at school. I'm still that way today, but though my mind is still far from feminine, my body has not stayed that way and now guys all but throw themselves at me, acting all ridiculous and 'macho' in a pathetic attempt to 'woo' me. ARGH!!!
All male inhabitants of the Netherlands: I do not want to date your jerky, testosteron oozing alter-ego. I want you. Just you. No one else.