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Originally Posted by metamorph  Thank you very much for your response 
I have not tried Internet dating, maybe because I like flirting and meeting women in real life too much. And, as shallow as it may sound, the first real life impression is often crucial for me as far as attraction goes. But I think your idea is still very good,because with online dating I could narrow down my search according to certain key interests in life the partner should have in common with me. Is there a dating forum on this site 
But apart from dating, have you got a lot of friends in real life with whom you can discuss things we discuss on these sites? I don't, although I have great friends! It just seems to me, self development (at least here in Europe) is either unpopular or a very private matter. I gave "seven habits" by Covey to one of my best friends as a present, and I could really see/feel that he did not like the "idea" of self help books at all. I think this is quite sad, and I wish there were more people in real life with whom I could share my journey. |
I can relate to you on friends part. I did JUST that, bought her a copy of 7 habits and she wasn't very happy. She didn't touch it until years after when a boss of hers who was quite into 7 habits talked to her about it.
About you falling behind, I can understand that. My boyfriend, who was a lot more into personal development when we started going out, did feel like he fell back a bit because I wasn't into it. I am hoping it wasn't that bad because I understood his concepts on a philosophical level and agreed with him because of my own experience with PD. I just wasn't there, emotionally. But he stood there patiently
, helped me through some very difficult times and now both of us are doing better and can do much better now that I have the capacity to consciously make that my goal. We have also built a strong relationship
What I am saying is, may be find someone who at least understands what you are talking about and is willing to make positive changes regardless of if they are ready? But that depends on if you have the patience to stick with the person until they really get to it.