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Originally Posted by mercuryrising  But I don't think that anyone is prevented from becoming confident. |
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I think what matters most is an attitude of willingness to change. Experience creates tendencies in thinking and behavior, placing arbitrary limits on perception. So I think our characteristics can be changed.
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I agree and I hope I didnt give the impression that I think the opposite. My thoughts and opinions are not definite and while rolling along with this thread I make up my mind. I want to clarify that I believe that two things create who we are. Being born with certain characteristics(genetics) and being shaped by upbringing and experience. A third I can add by saying that we have the ability to change. At this very moment I just want to say that its very very hard to change because who we are is so deeply rooted. Thats what I meant with
cannot change them too much. Sorry, its hard to express exactly what I mean when my mind is not a 100% made up on the subject. Or any subject
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The point I think you are really making is about self-acceptance. I have a tendency to be a perfectionist, that is true. And sometimes I am not-so-confident because whatever the topic is I know is not up to my standards of perfection (including me). There is a difference between being proficient and perfect. Acceptance is something I need to work on. Thanks.
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Interesting point you make about it not being to your standards. I can find myself in that. In conversations I have with people I find myself to be quite specific/perfectionist and still thinking about subjects thus not coming across as confident. Lots of "eehhhss" and "hmmmms" that we ourselves or our subconscience might perceive as inconfident?
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Originally Posted by Rafael Perez Do not be afraid of coming off as cocky or not knowing something, in fact do not worry about what anyone thinks. Do not try to impress anyone and just be yourself. Become confident in who you are no matter what anyone thinks. |
Thats what I am focusing on at this very moment! I care much too much about what others might think. Thanks for that Rafael.
Btw, great thread. I really enjoy this!