[Rafael Perez]

I have had experience in this subject have seen many relationships fall apart because of this. First off I know you will hear the term porn addiction and all kinds of labels that will soften the blow to you because it will make it seem like he has no control over it.

Second I want you to know that it is not you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are perfect.

This gets a little tricky and can be a very sensative subject so I will try to be gentle.

Many times and one of the reasons this issue cannot be seen as an addiction is that the porn it self or the person is brought to blame.

The porn has nothing to do with it and honestly he is not aware of why he does what he does.

There are several reasons, you would know better than I which would apply

1. He comes from a family or background in which women are seen as less, maybe he had a very male dominant figure in his life and women were not seen as equal. In these case, sex is more of an issue of dominance. He may find himself feeling guilty about that and avoid having sex.

2. Self confidence in bed. Maybe he think he is not that good and feels like a dissapointment every time you have sex. He will avoid it and turn to self satisfaction as an outlet.

3. Maybe he feels obligated to stay together but doesn't want to.

Now, I have listed a few things here that have to do with him. What I really want you to focus on is yourself.

what do you want? I mean, what do you truly want in order to be happy? and what are you afraid of?

Do not go by the social mandate or what everyone wants from you. Do not ask this question with others expectations or beliefs in your mind. Pretend no one else in the world exist... it is just you.

What do you really want? and what are you afraid of? and then ask yourself "why?"

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