Hey Guys,
Thanks for the replies and advice.
I know it is that typical take 1 day at a time adage, but like most people i just want things to be right now. I know I need to get out there and try some new things, meet new people, both male and females. I guess the struggle is my head doesn't seem to be in the right space to be trying new things as my mind will wonder instead of being able to commit fully to the new activity I am trying.
I did do the wrong thing the other day and try to latch onto the first girl that showed any interest, and I feel I stuffed up the whole friendship we had built in a short time.
I got chatting with a girl the other night (she initiated it, I am okay if they initiate, just really wussy and shy when it comes to being the initiator) and we seemed to hit it off. I used to play sport with her younger brother (one of the issues with Perth and the whole small world syndrome). She had invited me out a couple of times for drinks and dinner. This was a real confidence boost for me, but felt I became to clingy in the whole situation (I know in my head I need to take some time before moving onto a new relationship, but just felt this was going to solve all my issues). The girl seems way above my standard though, really nice looking, good body and really good to talk with, so yeah it sent the confidence sky high. Initially I let her make all the moves, but then decided I would start to try and initiate some of the meetings, but I guess I came across to clingy.
After a night out drinking, the girl came out for a little while but was feeling sick, so only had a drink then went home. We did get talking about how she thinks she is going to move up to the city soon and see what kind of life she can find for herself there. She had talked quite a few times before about her previous relationships and how she was ready to settle, but her partners where not. After she left I sent her the following text: "Sorry about tonight (not sure what I was actually apologising for?) hope you feel better soon and work out where you want to be in life. You are a cool hot chick that any guy would be stoked to be with. I really hope I can find a girl half as decent as you." I know texting and drinking is not recommended, but I did it anyway and can't do anything about it. The worst part was I followed it up with an email to her work apologising for the text and talking about how she had lifted my confidence and I really enjoyed hanging out and that I hoped i hadn't stuffed this up.
I guess time will tell with this one.  |