Originally Posted by cylon
Right. He's talking about the quality of being a MAN (capital M).... you know the ideal of a strong male who has mastered his mind and emotions and makes the world a better place? Places like this, help to foster that type of growth. You sort of have to DEVELOP it. Then you go from boy to MAN (bold, italic, underlined).
You know what. It's nothing to be ashamed about. "Nature decided to give me certain body parts, and certain chemicals and instintcs, that it didn't give to the hot chick over there with the other body parts. That's ok. She can have her characteristics, I'll have mine. Obviously we have this different stuff for a reason, so let's make the best of it."
Steve wrote a fantastic, uplifting article from (please sit down for this one it's going to rock your world) A MALE PERSPECTIVE (sorry for the swearing) becasue Steve is a DUDE. He's a male who became a MAN and he's listing the qualities that helped him BECOME THAT....
It's an ideal dude. Sheesh. It took me awhile to understand myself, I used to be one of these soft little puppy dog boys some of the lovely ladies in this thread are suggesting. I didn't get masculinity, I got femininity. So I had to become, to change, to grow. Which is why I love and relate to this stuff so much, and am glad Steve wrote my new daily read.
Don't be ashamed of your masculinity.
A man is an adult male, not some 'ideal' to be attained.
Nevertheless, I strongly disagree with your male 'ideal'.
I'm not ashamed of my masculinity, I'm ashamed that I live in a world where intelligent, rational people attempt to impose their dogmatic beliefs (in this case a stereotype of masculinity) onto others.