Originally Posted by MasterD
I didn't say there is no mutual respect. Of course there is and the one with the feminine polarity (either man or woman) has own goals of itself. I am just saying for a passionate relationship there is one more dominant and one more submissive. One more the leader and more the follower. For the feminine 'player' the relationship is most important. For the masculine player his goals, his purpose and his challenge. He needs the feminine, however, badly in order to inspire him and in order to thrive.
I talked to many women about this; and this is what I am experiencing in my own life. I feel when I am in this polarity and living my life as a real man (I am not there yet 100% consistent) I attract women that are looking for this type of energy. And those aren't the most needy unattractive girls. In the contrary; these are definitely the more attractive women, who are sick of the wimpy unpolarized guys.
You as a man, don't make ridicilous dominant decisions, just for your own benefit. You make sure everybody around you feels good and comfortable. You are a pillar of strength; a source of grounding energy and everybody around you benefits from that.
I'm sorry, but I just don't feel the need to be a "pillar of strength" in order to prove my masculinity. I accept myself as I am, I don't feel the need to change myself or prove myself or align myself to a socially constructed 'polarity'.
If I act like a nervous wreck I would still consider myself masculine, I don't need to be a stoic like figure to feel masculine.
If someone considers me 'wimpy' shame on them for judging me based on one instance of my behaviour.