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Just a Thought · 05-11-2008, 03:06 AM

A quick lookup for confidence: the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. Rewording your original question based on this definition yields:

"I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how I could increase my belief that I can rely on myself?"

It seems like this should work as a simple substitution--substituting the word for the definition in a clearly reasonable situation would lend itself towards an identical question. But here, it seems to lend itself towards a superficially different question--How can I rely on myself? But in essence is it not the same question? Perhaps I could ask: How can you rely on yourself to be a better conversationalist?

This new question has three parts to it in my world: having the ability, and having the knowledge, and knowing oneself. The first two I daresay you have covered, and is about as far as most motivational posters go...

You have the knowledge, you have the ability, Go out and do it!

But often left out is the later. The biggest issue I have ever found in having confidence is not knowing myself. I may enter a conversation, and find that I don't know myself:

What do I really think about this?
Do I really care?
Why bother?

Knowing yourself, knowing why you care, why you want to contribute, why you don't want to come off like you're bragging--why you want to be more confident--is the key to being able to rely on yourself. So do some soul searching and find out what you want and why you want it.

There is one thing that never goes away, never hides, and most surely will never do so: you. Who you are cannot be changed by anyone other than you. People may not like you for you, but what are they worth to you?

So next time you head into a conversation always know that you know yourself. Understand that they are talking to you, and that they wish to know about you--the same person they saw yesterday, and the same personal they will see tomorrow.

Just think about the overwhelming confidence inherent in the fact that you are yourself!

05-11-2008, 03:06 AM	#25 (permalink)
Just a Thought Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 5	Before I question my confidence, I question myself A quick lookup for confidence: the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. Rewording your original question based on this definition yields: "I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on how I could increase my belief that I can rely on myself?" It seems like this should work as a simple substitution--substituting the word for the definition in a clearly reasonable situation would lend itself towards an identical question. But here, it seems to lend itself towards a superficially different question--How can I rely on myself? But in essence is it not the same question? Perhaps I could ask: How can you rely on yourself to be a better conversationalist? This new question has three parts to it in my world: having the ability, and having the knowledge, and knowing oneself. The first two I daresay you have covered, and is about as far as most motivational posters go... You have the knowledge, you have the ability, Go out and do it! But often left out is the later. The biggest issue I have ever found in having confidence is not knowing myself. I may enter a conversation, and find that I don't know myself: What do I really think about this? Do I really care? Why bother? Knowing yourself, knowing why you care, why you want to contribute, why you don't want to come off like you're bragging--why you want to be more confident--is the key to being able to rely on yourself. So do some soul searching and find out what you want and why you want it. There is one thing that never goes away, never hides, and most surely will never do so: you. Who you are cannot be changed by anyone other than you. People may not like you for you, but what are they worth to you? So next time you head into a conversation always know that you know yourself. Understand that they are talking to you, and that they wish to know about you--the same person they saw yesterday, and the same personal they will see tomorrow. Just think about the overwhelming confidence inherent in the fact that you are yourself! Last edited by Just a Thought; 05-11-2008 at 05:07 AM.